"ufff... i'm really sad. you wanted to meet with a friend, but he is not home... we are definitely not trying to change his feelings or somehow lighten and cheer him up. moreover, we are not trying to suggest that it's not a big deal. our child's feelings are serious, real, and we are just naming them and trying to be together as long as needed..."
i will ask what caused his sadness.
i'll ask why?
i let them cry, holding them in my arms, i stroke, i kiss, i try to reflect, to listen, i say nice things.
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i'm asking what happened, with whom there was a disagreement in the kindergarten.
i'm sorry if it's because i scolded him, i'm trying to cheer him up and then talk about why he's sad if i don't know.
i am crying, or i am looking for the reason for my sadness.
i comfort and explain the reason for the sadness.
raminu
we hug. we try to divert his attention to other things.
i am hungry.
it happens rarely. i hug, i try to cheer up.
i am communicating with the child, trying to find out the reason for the sadness.
let us grieve.
i try to calm him down, find out what made him sad, and together we try to see what is bad and good in the situation, or i try to redirect his attention elsewhere if there is no reason to be very sad.
we are talking
depending on the situation, or if you want to be alone, you are allowed to be by yourself; if someone cuddles up, we hug and talk about what’s going on and why. of course, we first ask about the reason.
i ask if i can help with anything. if i can't help, i just sit next to them. i share my experience about my sadness. i say that feeling sad is a normal feeling.
we hug and stay embraced
i understand why the child is sad.
i am talking and analyzing the situation to understand why this happened.
issiaiskinu priezasti
we are talking about why he is sad, what he would like to do that would make him happy.
i will talk and find out the reason for the sadness.
i'm eating, i'm talking.
we spend time together.
i'll ask why you're sad.
most often you say that everything will be fine, it will be sorted out, etc.
i hug you, i calm you.
depending on the situation, sometimes i comfort, and sometimes i let them grieve.