ANKETA TĖVAMS
محترمو والدینو،
موږ د ویلنیوس کالج، د ماشومانو د ښوونې د لیسانس د غزیدلو زده کړو څلورم کال زده کوونکي یو. په دې وخت کې موږ د ښوونې د زده کړو د پای کار لیکو او د ماشومانو (۵-۶ کلن) ټولنیز-احساسي څرګندونو په اړه څیړنه کوو. مهرباني وکړئ د درېو پرانیستو پوښتنو ځوابونه راکړئ. ستاسو ځوابونه محرم دي، یوازې د کار د احصایوي معلوماتو تحلیل لپاره به وکارول شي.
د مرستې او ورکړل شوي وخت لپاره مننه.
ستاسو ماشوم څومره ځله غصه کیږي؟
- ??
- statistically calculated from 3-5 times on a calm good day to an uncountable amount when the day is bad. every time something happens that he doesn't want. he also gets angry when he is tired.
- every day
- 3-5 times a day
- almost every day
- sometimes, every time you restrict harmful but fun activities (like candy, cartoons, etc.).
- almost every day.
- several times a week
- often
- once a week
هغه/هغې عموماً څنګه غصه څرګندوي؟
- sorry
- which means expressing emotions by screaming, sometimes throwing a toy on the ground, slamming doors behind him, stomping his feet, clenching his fists, and tensing his body.
- raise your voice.
- screaming, fighting, lying on the ground.
- he furrows his brow, shouts, or isolates himself from everyone and hides, sometimes kicks, throws things, and threatens with what he thinks can offend the most.
- zyzimas, crying.
- it starts to scream, to protest, to cry, and then goes to another room to hide.
- screaming and fighting
- twice a day
- the city is collapsing.
کله چې ستاسو ماشوم غصه شي، تاسو څه کوئ؟
- don't know
- sakome: "uffff. you are so annoying... you don't like it... i understand... i see... uffff" it's like we agree with the feeling he is experiencing, but we wait until the emotion subsides and ends, and then we talk.
- i don't pay attention.
- it depends on the situation: sometimes i ignore it, sometimes i explain that it's not worth getting angry and fighting over, and sometimes i give a strong hug.
- depending on the circumstances—what caused the anger, whether we are in a public place or at home, whether we are alone or there are other family members present—i sometimes calmly stay close, hug, try to make them laugh, play a game, or suggest something pleasant. other times, i let them be alone until the anger dissipates, and sometimes i firmly ask them to stop throwing things with a few arguments. we definitely talk when things have calmed down.
- i take him in my arms and say that everything is fine.
- i'm waiting a few minutes and then i'm going to talk to the child, explain why i couldn't do something the way he wanted and why he got angry about it.
- i speak calmly and try to soothe and suggest a situation; if he doesn't calm down, i offer something he likes (cookies, riding a bike, or watching a movie).
- i don't react, i pretend that nothing happened, sometimes i try to talk it over, and very rarely i scold.
- i let the anger out, then i try to calm down.
ستاسو ماشوم څومره ځله خپه کیږي؟
- no idea
- it's hard to say... sometimes, maybe when i'm tired, but it's hard to tell if i'm sad then because i'm tired or just have fewer emotions because i'm tired... sometimes a hint of sadness is visible when i have to part with friends i enjoy meeting and playing with. or when i go to a friend's house and they aren't home...
- it happens.
- he is cheerful, but sometimes he seems sad to me, so i ask why? but i think he still doesn't quite distinguish anger from sadness.
- retai
- i didn't notice any sadness; you always have some activities to do.
- a person is rarely indifferent, as they are either calm, happy, or angry.
- retail
- it's hard to say, as it's difficult to distinguish sadness from ordinary whims.
- it happens more often when we don't allow something, i would say every day.
هغه/هغې عموماً څنګه خپګان څرګندوي؟
- can't say
- no, with such a blank face... sometimes a tear falls...
- looking with a sad gaze.
- looking out the window or lying down.
- she hid under the blanket and cried.
- -
- hello, we are sorry.
- cries differently than anger, with tears and passively reacts to the environment
- hysteria, whim, crying.
- it seems that he/she is crying.
کله چې ستاسو ماشوم خپه شي، تاسو څه کوئ؟
- not sure
- "ufff... i'm really sad. you wanted to meet with a friend, but he is not home... we are definitely not trying to change his feelings or somehow lighten and cheer him up. moreover, we are not trying to suggest that it's not a big deal. our child's feelings are serious, real, and we are just naming them and trying to be together as long as needed..."
- i will ask what caused his sadness.
- i'll ask why?
- i let them cry, holding them in my arms, i stroke, i kiss, i try to reflect, to listen, i say nice things.
- -
- i'm asking what happened, with whom there was a disagreement in the kindergarten.
- i'm sorry if it's because i scolded him, i'm trying to cheer him up and then talk about why he's sad if i don't know.
- i am crying, or i am looking for the reason for my sadness.
- i comfort and explain the reason for the sadness.
ستاسو ماشوم څومره ځله ویره احساسوي؟
- don't know
- sometimes he is afraid to sleep alone at night, so he comes to us. sometimes he is afraid to go to places where there are many people... he used to be afraid of the dark.
- sometimes
- very rarely
- retkarciais
- i did not notice any fear.
- he is afraid of thunder. he is afraid of the sounds of ambulances, police, and fire truck sirens.
- a few times a week when he meets a dog or sometimes at night
- retai. when she goes to a dark place, when mom is gone for a long time.
- menu for the week
هغه/هغې عموماً څنګه ویره څرګندوي؟
- don't know
- i would rather be there, where it is scary. i resist coercion and persuasion that this needs to be done. other reactions depend on how strongly we force it to be in a fearful situation.
- nori to hide.
- looking for closeness, wants to hug.
- says that they are afraid, refuses to do something, clings to a hand.
- -
- i suggest we go home faster.
- runs, gets angry, because at night it calls and asks to lie down with him and hug.
- very rarely.
- they say that they are afraid.
کله چې ستاسو ماشوم ویره لري، تاسو څه کوئ؟
- not sure
- i hold her close to me, soothe her, name the feeling, and talk. in my opinion, the feeling that a child feels - fear - is real, so i never question it. we talk a lot about what caused the fear. is it a belt - a snake, lying under the bed? is it real? is it a snake? can we take a look? just one step and carefully? just to make sure if it really is...
- i pretend that i am also scared.
- i comfort and reassure him that i am with him and he has nothing to fear.
- depending on the circumstances—if the fear is justified, for example, if an unfamiliar dog is approaching, i pick them up; but if they are afraid of the dark, we take a flashlight, talk, play with shadows, and so on.
- -
- i explained that there is nothing to be afraid of, nothing will happen to us.
- i try to protect him, and when he feels safe, then we try to talk.
- i talk on the phone, or i persuade that nothing terrible has happened.
- i will bless you.