Affection within Devotional Sex

This poll is for for couples who practice Devotional Sex (DevS).

It looks at how many minutes each week you do a range of affectionate activities, and compares this with what you did before you started DevS.

If you practice DevS I want to hear from you even if you don't engage in lots of affectionate activities (eg for some just lots of cuddles in bed may be enough).

The reason for asking about before for each activitiy is that it is difference between before and after which shows whether or not DevS has made a difference.

Just a good guess of how many minutes a week will do.

And if you do something so often that you think in hours, just convert the hours to minutes. So an hour a day is 7 * 60 = 420 minutes.

If you do an activity for say 10 minutes once every two weeks, just average this out and so enter that you do it for 5 minutes each week.

If an answer is zero then either enter 0 or just leave that question unanswered and move on to the next.

The survey also asks about the importance of affection to your and your partner's overall enjoyment of Devotinal Sex.

Early results found that affection is a key part of sexual activity for many - so I now ask about the balance between sexual pleasures and affection for sexual activities.

This is a survey which is good to fill in together.

Otherwise you are likely to need to ask your partner a few questions. (It is worth asking them not only because this will make the survey results more accurate, but because you may be surprised by their answers!)

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His age is:

18 - 2728 - 3738 - 4748 - 5758 - 6768 - 7778 or more

How long have you been together?

Less than a yearbetween 1 and 2 yearsbetween 2 and 5 yearsbetween 5 and 10 yearsbetween 10 and 20 years20 years or longer

You

Live DevS (ie you always do it)Usually do DevS (ie most of the time he is her Knight but sometimes you take a break and go back to 'normal')Occasionally do DevS (ie most of the time your sex life is 'normal', but sometimes you do a Season of DevS)

You have been practicing DevS for

under 6 months6 months to a yearBetween 1 and 2 yearsBetween 2 and 3 yearsBetween 3 and 4 yearsBetween 4 and 5 yearsBetween 5 and 6 yearsBetween 6 and 7 yearsOver 7 years

The feel of your dynamic, and your activities are:

Pure DevS (ie only sex and intimacy based activities)DevS with some BDSMMore Femdom / BDSM than DevS

HOLDING HANDS: How many minutes a week did you hold hands BEFORE you started DevS?

How many minutes a week do you hold hands when doing DevS?

CUDDLING IN BED: How many minutes a week did you cuddle in bed each week BEFORE you started DevS?

How many minutes a week do you cuddle in bed (including Devotional Cuddles - ie a cuddle where she gently holds his erection) now that you do DevS?

CUDDLING OUTSIDE THE BEDROOM: How many minutes a week did you cuddle each other each week outside of the bedroom (eg in the living room, sitting on a park bench, etc) BEFORE you did DevS?

How many minutes a week do you cuddle outside the bedroom each week when you are doing DevS?

MASSAGE: How many minutes a week did he spend massaging her (foot, back, or body) BEFORE you did DevS?

How many minutes a week does he spend massaging her when doing DevS?

MOUTH TO MOUTH PASSIONATE KISSING: How many minutes a week did you passionately kiss each week BEFORE DevS? The passion may be slow and gentle or active - but it's more than an 'affectionate hello'. This includes passionate mouth to mouth kissing during sexual activity as well as kissing when dressed, etc.

How many minutes a week do you passionately kiss mouth to mouth when doing DevS?

HIM KISSING HER BODY: How many minutes a week did he kiss her body (ie not her mouth and not oral sex but anywhere else on the body) BEFORE you did DevS?

How many minutes a week does he kiss her body when you are doing DevS?

How important is all the above affection to HIM in his enjoyment of DevS overall?

100% - it's the increase in affection which is key75% - the increase in affection is more important than the increase in sexual pleasures50% - the increase in affection is just as important as the sexual benefits25% - the increase in sexual pleasures is more important than the increase in affection0% - it's the increase in sexual pleasures which is key

How important is all the above affection to HER in her enjoyment of DevS overall?

To what extent has the increase in affection benefitted your whole relationship?

Very significantlySignificantlyA Moderate amountA LittleNot at allIt has Harmed the relationship

SEXUAL ACTIVITIES: Minutes a week of having intercourse BEFORE doing DevS:

Minutes a week of having intercourse when doing DevS:

PLEASURE KISSING: How many minutes a week did he give her oral sex BEFORE you did DevS?

How many minutes a week does he give her oral sex when you are doing DevS?

Him giving her oral sex is another way of him kissing her, so as well as this being sexual there may be a component of it being affection as well. To what extent does HE think giving oral sex is also affection?

100% - for him it is mainly affection75% - for him there is a big component of affection50% - for him it is an equal mix of both25% - for him it is mainly sexual but there is also affection0% - for him it is all sexualDuty - he mainly does it because it is expected of him (so it's not mainly about sexual pleasures or affection)

To what extent does SHE think receiving oral sex is also affection?

100% - for her it is mainly affection75% - for her there is a big component of affection50% - for her it is an equal mix of both25% - for her it is mainly sexual but there is also affection0% - for he it is all sexualDuty - she mainly receives it because it is expected of her (so it's not mainly about sexual pleasures or affection)

Minutes a week of sexual activity OTHER THAN intercourse or him giving her oral sex (so minutes of her giving him oral and using your hands to play with each other) BEFORE DevS:

Minutes a week of sexual activity OTHER THAN intercourse or him giving her oral sex when doing DevS:

For sexual activity overall, for HIM what was the balance between this being affection and it being sexual BEFORE he was practicing DevS?

100% affection75% affection50% affection and 50% sexual pleasures25% affection and mainly sexual pleasures0% affection and it was all about sexual pleasuresDuty - Sex was mainly done because it was expected (so neither affection nor pleasure was key)

For HER the balance between overall sexual activity being affection and sexual BEFORE doing DevS?

100% affection75% affection50% affection and 50% sexual pleasures25% affection and sex was mainly about sexual pleasures0% affection and it was all about sexual pleasuresDuty - Sex was mainly done because it was expected (so neither affection nor pleasure was key)

For HIM now that he is doing DevS, the balance for overall sexual activity between affection and sexual pleasures is now ..

100% affection75% affection50% affection and 50% sexual pleasures25% affection and it is mainly about sexual pleasures0% affection and it is now all about sexual pleasuresDuty - Sex is mainly done because it is expected (so neither affection nor pleasure is key)

For HER, now that she is doing DevS, the balance for overall sexual activity between affection and sexual pleasures is now ..

100% affection75% affection50% affection and 50% sexual pleasures25% affection and sex is mainly about sexual pleasures0% affection and it is all about sexual pleasuresDuty - Sex is mainly done because it is expected (so neither affection nor pleasure is key)

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