sakome: "uffff. you are so annoying... you don't like it... i understand... i see... uffff" it's like we agree with the feeling he is experiencing, but we wait until the emotion subsides and ends, and then we talk.
i don't pay attention.
it depends on the situation: sometimes i ignore it, sometimes i explain that it's not worth getting angry and fighting over, and sometimes i give a strong hug.
depending on the circumstances—what caused the anger, whether we are in a public place or at home, whether we are alone or there are other family members present—i sometimes calmly stay close, hug, try to make them laugh, play a game, or suggest something pleasant. other times, i let them be alone until the anger dissipates, and sometimes i firmly ask them to stop throwing things with a few arguments. we definitely talk when things have calmed down.
i take him in my arms and say that everything is fine.
i'm waiting a few minutes and then i'm going to talk to the child, explain why i couldn't do something the way he wanted and why he got angry about it.
i speak calmly and try to soothe and suggest a situation; if he doesn't calm down, i offer something he likes (cookies, riding a bike, or watching a movie).